I think that's fantastic advice! I try my best to shower and get ready every single day as well. I've found myself gaining a few pounds lately and my clothes haven't been fitting as well so I took the time to get some things that didn't make me feel like I had to hold my breath to zip my pants! Who feels good squeezing themselves into too small clothes?! You always hear the phrase "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" and I totally agree! Taking care of yourself is the first step to a happy house! Thanks for sharing your grandma's story!
Katy-mom to Jacob and Abigail, wife to Joseph
Independent Scentsy Consultant-www.BeWickFree.com
I should really try this! I am replying to yout post right now in my PJs with my hair in a towel because i JUST got out of the shower!! Its 3:30pm, i SHOULD be ready, clean, and dressed for the day just like my kids are!!! I am going to try this!! Thanks for the advice!
Katy - Mommy to 3 year old Alison and 11 month old Cole
she's 65 now and she said it's the best advice she has ever gotten!
that is funny .. that is what i was doing too :).
it's just easier taking care of others once you've taken care of yourself.
good luck on it.. let me know if it works for you :D.
I totally agree with getting ready! It seems in the winter, that I don't really get dressed somedays, or have an unwashed ponytail or no makeup, and by the end of the day, I haven't really accomplished much. It's like if I get ready, then I can do anything, go anywhere.
It is VERY good advice!
~Kim
it is so true!
if i don't get ready for the day then i always put things off and i'm like 'meh then i'd have to get ready.. i'll do it tomorrow' or whatever.
cuz before that story i usually only got ready if there were a reason (people visiting/doctor appt/grocery shopping etc) but lately, i'm always ready and it's great!
it's strange because i almost feel more "in order" and i've been cleaning more and just feel more together and organized.
Grandma and Grandma's doctor are right on! I totally agree with the advice. I can not even function in the morning if I don't shower....even if I've had very little sleep, I still feel better getting up and getting ready than if I'd slept in and not had time to take care of myself. And like kimmeran said, you just get more done. I have to feel "ready" for my day...I read some book about stay at home moms, and one section was about this very subject. The author made the point that if you can't get up and get yourself ready and look nice for your family, but can get ready for other things (friends, work, going out, etc), what message is that sending them? I thought that was interesting. Anyway, great advice that I've lived by for a long time!
I do think this is awesome advice...for MOST ppl. For me, I don't care what anyone thinks, even my fam. Today I went to the park, zoo, and mom's coffee shop in a pair of hubby's long orange b-ball shorts and a tye-dye shirt! This happens to be what I wore to bed...shorts are still from yesterday. I'm the girl in walmart with the kids in the cart dressed pretty cute and I am in pj pants or bball shorts and a tshirt or tank top. There is the occasional "cute" outfits, but usually only on the weekends. I feel that my dc kids don't need me to be all "dolled" up...we just get dirty and sweaty and wet outside. So they are lucky if I even take a shower, it's usually the night before. (didn't get one yesterday OR today yet...gotta jump in the shower with the kids soon) So yea, this is very good advice, and thank you for sharing it! If I ever get the ambition/want to "get ready" I will def try it!!
**Ever stop to think...then forget to start again?**
lol yeah i was talking to my mom about this.. she just kinda throws on clothes and doesn't do make up or hair and can't get contacts because of her prescription or something like that or anything so she is pretty much always ready to go once she is dressed!
she keeps her nails really nice, and brushes her hair, though so i guess that is something.
even if you don't care too much about hair.make up/what you're wearing, you can still just shower, put on a new outfit, put on deodorant, shave and just really basic stuff too and that would get you ready for the day! but yeah if you aren't into that kinda stuff and just don't care too much about it then i spose the advice isn't terribly applicable..
unless you try dressing up for fun and see if you feel better/different or the same either way?
to each their own :).
So here is my question... As a stay at home mom, i sleep in till the kids get up.. Once they are both awake then i get up! which is usually around 8 - 8:30am.. Should i wake up and get ready for the day before them??? Or wait till they are awake and have eaten breakfast first??
Katy - Mommy to 3 year old Alison and 11 month old Cole
Mos days, I do get up before my kids and get myself ready...that just works better for me. I just feel more calm and ready for the day. When I do try to get ready after they're up, we run into problems - fighting, whining, hanging on me, etc. I just get frazzled and start the day off annoyed! :)
I stay home and usually sleep until the kids are awake too. Sometimes they're up before my husband leaves for work and I take a quick shower before he leaves. Other times, after we've eaten breakfast, I put my 4 1/2 year old in front of the TV (yes, I use it as a babysitter sometimes) and bring my 20 month old in the shower with me. She loves being in the shower and gets offended if I don't invite her in! It works for us!
I really do want to start getting up before the kids though so I can try and exercise in the mornings without them getting in my way. If only I could talk myself out of bed an hour early! :)
Katy-mom to Jacob and Abigail, wife to Joseph
Independent Scentsy Consultant-www.BeWickFree.com
um, maybe i should try this....i am still in my pjs:)
I have to say that this has been my philosophy lately also! It sure makes your days go better too I think! And I have to add that I am JEALOUS of all of you that are still in your pj's at 4 in the afternoon!!! But yeah, I do think that it is less stressful when something last minute comes up and you have to go NOW. You're done and presentable!!
Ok, it's 6:40 pm and I'm STILL in my pjs (do boxers and a tshirt count?). I've showered, but I didn't put my contacts in today nor did I do anything with my hair or makeup. So far it's been a pretty crappy day! I guess it doesn't help matters that I woke up in a crappy mood.
-Mommy to Jaiden-
Good point! If ya look good, ya feel good! I know i usually feel frumpy during the day because i never get myself ready....but its SO easier said that done
This is great advice, but I can honestly say, Argh!!! I stay at home with the kids during the day and work evenings (approx 530-1030pm, and I can hardly make it anywhere/including getting dressed/showered, hair done, before 10am! I feel like there must be something wrong with me! I can't fall asleep much before midnight/1am, and I'm exhausted by the time 7am rolls around and they kids are up! Yikes! I think I'm beginning to feel some pangs of jealousy! It's great advice, but wondering how other's do this every day, if there are other mom's working this type of schedule?? And to think I schedule people for a living!
I try to shoot to get ready by 10am. I looove sleeping and try to stay asleep as long as I can in the morning. I wake up when the baby does, get her dressed and fed, and then get her busy with something so I can get ready. I have a bouncy seat in the hallway I sometimes put her in, or I'll just put her in the crib with a whole bunch of toys. I'll shower, get dressed, make-up, etc. Then I don't have to think about it the rest of the day. :) So whether it's a day I work or not, I agree that it feels way less frantic when people come over unexpectedly.
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So a few weeks ago my hubby and i randomally stopped by my grandma and grandpa's house.
we rang the bell and i knew they were there but about a minute had gone by and no one had answered.. i felt bad because i pictured my grandma frantically getting herself 'together'.
she is on chemo and has a wig and fake eyelashes and stuff that she puts on (she is SUPER hip and looks like my mom!) and wears make up and before she lost her hair, dyed it and such.
so anyways i thought she was getting ready before answering the door..
then she answered it and was totally ready. (they were getting the dog in the kennel since we were with the babies).
i asked her if she gets ready every day or just happened to be ready.
she said she gets ready every single day whether or not she will be leaving the house/seeing anyone etc.
then she told me a story:
when she was younger - with 2 sons (my dad and uncle) - my dad was in the hospital.. she went in to see the doctor about how he was doing and asked about whatever she needs to do.
he looked at her - she was wearing men's clothes (since she'd gained some weight after pregnancy), her hair was tangled, no make up etc - and said, take care of yourself! (she said he was an outspoken jewish man) and he kinda yelled at her and said before you come in here, before you worry about your sons, get up in the morning, brush your hair, put on some make up, eat breakfast.. put yourself first! then you will fell great and will be better able to take care of your kids.
something along those lines anyways.
it may sound harsh and offensive of him, but she was grateful for the advice and has followed it ever since and every morning she does take care of herself first and she always feels better (even if no one sees her).
i just think it is great advice.. taking care of yourself first. (obviously there are exceptions..).
i've started doing it too now and i feel great.
i don't get stressed out if someone shows up suddenly to visit me/babies and frantically try to get ready.
i don't need to add wait time if my hubby wants to go out to eat, or if i need to run to hy vee.
i feel cute for my husband.
and i just feel better all around!
my boys are 4 months old and i would only get ready when i "needed" to and would stay in my pajamas or toss my hair back and just whatever :p.
okay this is getting long but anyways, you should try it!.