If those were indeed the words the teacher used to describe your child, I would be upset to. There was another little girl in my daughters class, and it was trouble. If the teacher would have said something like that about my child, she would have been pulled from the school. There is a tactful way they should go about things, and that is definately not it. I would talk to the teacher or coordinator about it. They should not say that about any child.
Oh yeah, I would be going to someone about it. My son is rarely away from my husband and I as well and if I am going to send him away for a couple of hours a week without us I wouldn't want him in that type of environment.
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Wow, are you serious!? I would've been in the director's office so fast it would've made that teacher's head spin. How rude! I don't think you're being overly sensitive at all; I personally don't think that's appropriate language for a teacher to use. I worked in a preschool/daycare for 2 years and as much as I would've liked to say that to some parents, I refrained from doing so. :-)
It is not appropriate for any teacher to use foul language when speaking with a parent. That is unprofessional and completely uncalled for. The English language is full of other words to describe such behavior. No, you are not being overly sensitive...you're being a concerned mom and for that, you should be applauded.
Totally agree, complete lack of professionalism. Did she have anything constructive to say? Or suggestions for how to work with him at home? I am also wondering, because I am married to a man :) , did your husband convey the message word for word?
i dunno.. guys don't get bothered by stuff like that as much.
you could also ask her tone.. was she being snooty or was she being kinda playful?
it doesn't really matter, but it would make a difference in how upset i got over it.
and maybe the difference in whether or not i contacted the school about it.
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I'd be peeved because it was so unprofessional. If someone said something like that in a different scenario it probably wouldn't bother me, as I'm hard to offend. However, when I pay to send my child somewhere for education I fully expect them to be professional.
There is no way any teacher should use any language of that type with a parent. Even if your child is having issues, there are other words to use when talking to the parents, that is no excuse. I would be talking to the teacher as well as the director to get things taken care of and handled so this type of thing doesn't happen to another family in the future and pulling my child out of that environment. The director needs to know that one of her teachers is talking like this to parents and the teacher needs to know that this is not acceptable behavior and language. Think about this...if those are the words she is willing to say to the parents, what is she telling other co-workers, etc. about your child and what is she thinking to herself that she is not going to say. If she can say that to the parent, her feelings on the child's behavior are much worse I am assuming. There are many other preschools out there to choose from. This would be just like a daycare, you wouldn't send your child to a daycare where they were talking about your child like this. I think it is good that she is communicating with you on what he is making progress on and what he needs to work on, but there is another way to go about it than the way she did and I would make that clear. There is no way I would just let this go if those are indeed the words she used. The thing that I always think about at in the back of my mind is what I say to the teacher, director, secretay, principal is going to effect my child if that person is a grudge holder and is going to think they are still in the right after we try to resolve this. Some people are just that type and I think a lot of parents don't think about the things they always say when indeed they could be dealing with someone that might hold onto this incident. That is the bad part about things like this. You would want to pull them out, but then again you don't want to run away from your problems as well. I had issues at my daughter's preschool with a child in her class hurting other children and how things were handled or should I say how they were not handled, but I choose not to ruffle feathers in my situation due to the grudge holder personality of a certain person that would have been involved and I didn't want that at all taken out on my daughter in the future if there were any other of these incidences that effected her. It can be a hard call to make at times, but in your situation I would not hesitate to speak up and take care of the situation. It is a tough spot. Good luck to you in this difficult situation.
That is totally inappropriate. I would definitely wonder about how she talks to the children in her class (including your child) if she thinks it's ok to say that to a parent. Very unprofessional.
My kids have been going to daycare since they were 3 months old, and I have never had a teacher talk to me about my kids that way. It is totally inappropriate.
I also know that what is said, and what my husband "hears" are often two different things. I would just ask the teacher yourself how things are going with your son, and see how she responds. If you ask her specifically about the words she used with your husband, it often becomes a confrontation, and then everyone becomes defensive, and no one gets the results that they wanted. Good luck...
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My 3 yr old started preschool a couple of months ago after never being in daycare or in all actuality never being away from my husband and I and rarely around other kids. recently one day after picking our son up from school my husband said that the teacher told him "he is starting to follow directions some but he's a little smart*ss about it" her exact words according to hubby.I got very upset about this but hubby tries to tell me I'm just overly sensitive because of other issues. What do other moms have to say and what would you do?