I Need Opinions!

   Submitted by kerrikosir on May 6, 2008 - 3:22pm.    

My husband and I are expecting our second child. Our daughter's name is Mackenzie. If we have another girl, we really want to name her Madison (or a variation of that spelling). The problem is, my husband's cousin who lives in MN already has a daughter named Madison. What makes it harder is, she has the same last name. We never see that side of the family and they do not live near us. Do you think it is wrong of us to name our baby Madison? I really need help on this one!


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Submitted by working_mommy on May 6, 2008 - 3:29pm.

I think if you like it and have considered other options, go for it. But consider how down the road she may run into problems with someone living so close haveing the same name.
My uncle shares a name with someone who is not related to him but they live near each other, and he is constantly getting collection calls for the other guy. The collectors think he is lying when he says he is not the real guy but they have the same name.

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Submitted by MommytoIzabella on May 6, 2008 - 3:31pm.

In my opinion, name your baby whatever you want to name him/her. To me, it wouldn't matter who had the same name, if that is the name I liked, i'd name my baby that. It's something your baby will have for the rest of their life so do what you want and have no regrets!!

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Submitted by Sommer on May 6, 2008 - 3:43pm.

I would go ahead and name her Madison. My name is Sommer T and I have a second cousin and her name is (or was before she got married) was Summer T. She does live in the same town as me and everyone once in awhile would get our medical charts pulled wrong cause it just so happened we went to the same clinic, and there was this one time she got arrested for some dumb reason and my aunt in-law was a sheriffs deputy and thought she was using my name as an alias until she searched records and seen that there was actually two of us! But since they are in a different state and you hardly ever see them, I really wouldnt worry about it!

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Submitted by A Girl and Her Tools on May 6, 2008 - 3:44pm.

Who cares what the cousin's name is. I have the same name as some of my cousins and there's been no problems. I actually think it's kinda' cute that they liked the same name for their daughter. There has also been someone else with the same name as my husband living in each town we've lived in. It happens. If you like the name, just give her a different middle name and no one can possible be offended.

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Submitted by twoathome on May 6, 2008 - 3:49pm.

I say name her whatever you want to name her, too. I have 118 first cousins and there are plenty of "repeats" among them. Many have the same first and last names and even live in the same geographical area, and they've been just fine.
And, no, my family tree is NOT a stump . . .

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Submitted by isabelsmom on May 6, 2008 - 4:49pm.

Wow! 118 first cousins??? Sounds like you're from Central SD!! DH's family is like that. TONS of relatives!
"Have you heard about corduroy pillows? They're making head lines!!"

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Submitted by twoathome on May 6, 2008 - 5:12pm.

Nope. Eastern Iowa. Irish (and German) Catholics. Need I say more??

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Submitted by Amy on May 6, 2008 - 4:00pm.

I say use the name you love. When we were expecting our first son 9 years ago, I wanted to name him Matthew, but my husband's cousin had a son named Matthew, and we decided not to "copy" them, even though it is a name I have always loved (in retrospect it was a very silly reason to reject the name, but at the time, we made that decision.) I have no regrets because I now love my son's name (Jacob), and can't imagine him with any other name. The funny ending to this story is that when that same cousin's second son was born a few years later, they named him...Jacob:) Obviously we were the only silly ones to think that mattered, so, like I said before, go for it! If you love Madison, use it!

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Submitted by kerrikosir on May 6, 2008 - 4:20pm.

THANK YOU for all the positive feedback! I appreciate all the good advice!

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Submitted by psveal on May 6, 2008 - 6:51pm.

I have always loved the name Grace. It took us 3 years and lots of infertility drugs to get pregnant. In those 3 years my sister in laws were having babies right and left. (Or so it seemed!) Anyways my husband and I decided that regardless of what they named their kiddos we were still going to use the name Grace. We however have 2 boys so have not been able to use it. But I remember what a big worry or decision it would have been.

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Submitted by mom of 5 on May 6, 2008 - 7:37pm.

mom of 5
Just a note: My 2 sisters and I have 11 children among us. My mother's middle name is Anne. In our group alone we have; Beverly Ann, Ann Marie, and Ann Joy. These are first cousin's Imagine my poor mom trying too keep them straight :) No hard feelings to be found in our group though.