I don't know what to do here... I have to ignore it and walk away or else I'd probably say something that may come off as rude.
::Chelsea::
the only time ive experienced anything like this, was when zoe first came home with me, children wanted to come up to her carseat (they still do it) and touch her and try to take the stroller away to walk with her etc...and the adults/p0arents let them do this, i even told one lady politely, that my daughter cant be around many other people due to her heart issues, and that if she gets sick it could be very bad, but she didnt listen, it annoyed me to no end.. i really wish more people would get a handle on their children! i finally just pick up my daughter or walk around with her until were called back to a doctor, or what not, and this just happends in a doctors office most times, otherwise they dont really bother..but still... i just give looks towards them to see what they are gonna do, and if nothing they get a bad look.. and i shake my head.. its about all i can do right? i mean otherwise you never know what someone else would do if you do anything, such as not grabbing but, maybe telling a child to get down off the stroller, and helping them down with their arm or hand, but that can be taken the wrong way so what do you do.. ya know?
"When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real"
I say something to the kids that are TOO BIG to play in the mall playarea. They jump from thing to thing, and don't watch the lil ones they are "flying" over. One landed on top a 2yr and broke his arm! So I have no problem saying something to the older ones. Although the last time I did, she told her mom and the mom came over and yelled at me not to talk to her child. So I called Mall Services. Problem solved.
~Kim
Gabe&Dom's Mom
I will say something to kids that are to big also, I have no problem with that. Those parents should not even allow there children that are to big in the play area. It is crazy!
I will also say something if a child is doing something to mine and the parents won't say anything, and if my child is doing something disrespectful, I will correct her as I do not want her being rude. I want her being respectful. I will make her say sorry if need be also.
We have also had people over to our house, they let there kid by with murder! The boy threw a toy truck on my wood floor! I was hot! The girlfriend just says laughing "no, no", I looked at him and said in a stern voice, "you do not throw toys in my house" She just looked at me. I told my husband, they never need to come over again! I could not imagine going to someones house and letting your child act that way.
When it comes down to it, if a child is doing something to harm another, yes, I will say something, just very nice about it. They seem to take it better that way. "That may not be the best idea" and they usually stop. (We are talking little kids, right?)
This is kind of funny to me because I always tell people (generally friends and family)..."if you see my child acting a fool, or doing something he/she is not supposed to be doing PLEASE correct them (verbally) especially if I am not right there to do it myself....I always say "sometimes it takes more than us just as parents to guide our children in the way they should go", I personally have NO problem with someone else "getting onto my child" even if they are a stranger cause in my book "wrong" is "wrong"...
A friend of mine shared with me that when kids say "i'm sorry" the other person should not say "it's ok", because if it really was "ok" why say "i'm sorry" at all? When I asked what should be said in response to an "i'm sorry" she told me you should try to have the child say "apology accepted"...makes since to me, and is kind of cute to see a little one try to utter those words..(she's a college profressor @ Morningside in Sioux City IA)
I am or at least try to be sensitive to strangers children!
However I have to agree to your statement of when other children are in your home and some parents tend to allow their child do whatever...I don't know if it's due to the parent just not wanting to deal with it in public or if it is more that the "child rules the roost" as I like to say! If it is something I feel I need to stop or say something about I will do so...I had a child get mad at mom and before she could utter the words of "don't kick me" he had already kicked her (yes his own mother, he was almost 5 at the time)! Mom didn't say anything to him however I told him he needed to apologize to his mother...I also tried explaining to him why he needed to apologize..and I did tell him if he could not apologize he would need to have a time out...he of course looking at mom really long and hard finally did apologize...In our house "disrespecting" a parent or adult figure is not tollerated! And I agree if you are in my house and do something wrong I have the right to say something!!
God Bless
God's Grace changes every thing, God's Mercy is all that we need, cause when we're up when we're down God's Love is all around us!
Amen sister I agree my house my rules obviously they dont get the same disapline as my mine but my rules are my rules and if your kids are affecting my mine I am going to speak up especially if I dont see the parent coming around to say something.
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Some parents allow their kids to cut in line and push other kids around. Do ignore what’s happening, or do you politely intervene?