Are there any more step-moms out there?

I am a step mother to a 5 year old and I also love her and treat her as if she were my own and I love the time I get to spend with her. I to don't have any children of my own and I have always wanted children but the now that seems to be changing. I to have wonderred how it would affect her I think she would love having a sister or brother. But when it comes to grandparents I wonder how another child would affect them. Right now my step daughter is there one and only grand child and she is everything and then some to them and I wonder how it would be if they had another one that they got to see all the time. Where as with my step daughter they only see her once or twice a month now. I would love to talk with you some more if you are interested. How is your relationship with your step childs mother?

Hey there. I would love to hear from other stepmoms around here. I have an 8 year old stepson and an adorable 3 month old. So far the oldest loves his baby brother, not sure if that's because we included him on everything and kept telling him about how he was going to have a little brother looking up to him or if its because he'll soon have one in the other household also? Either way, he's great with the little man...will hold him, feed him, entertain him...you name it.

I have a soon to be 10 year old step son and a 2 year old son. They both absolutely love each other. It took awhile for us to figure out our relationships, but everything is great. I treat my step-son as my son, I want him to know I love him just as much as my biological son. But I also don't try to replace his mom. We always go shopping to get her something for mothers day, Christmas, etc. He is so sweet. He'll tell me he is so lucky to have the best mom and the best step-mom in the world.

I have a 12 year old stepson and 2 more boys of my own they are 7yrs&2yrs which both adore they're brother.When i had my first son there was a bit of adjusting that had to be done.But then again his father and mother was always at each others throats so he was very very spoiled.Any way after acouple of months he was totally fine with his little brother. I think once Gabe got alittle older he relized it was more fun with another kid to play with.One other thing my husband and I did with him was take turns taking him on special trips(mom&him or Dad&him)just him and I.I know sometimes it can be really hard for a stepchild to adjust , but just make sure she knows your there for her and that she can talk to you no matter what the problem and she'll be fine.Oh by the way his mom and dad get along good now,actually I watched his other little brother(Calebs moms) about 2 weeks ago,He thought that was really cool to have all 3 of his brothers in one house for a day.

I have two daughter's, one 7 and one 4. My fiance has had full custody of the girls almost the entire time I have known him (2+years) and they have extremely limited contact with their biological mom. I am their mom and I love them as my daughters, though I have no biological children of my own. We do plan to add to our family once we are married. The girls have acutally been requesting a younger brother/sister for awhile now and the only reason for delay is our wedding scheduled for the end of the year. I will not walk down the aisle pregnant on purpose. As far as interacting with the bio-mom, we are civil when interaction is necessary. I have little respect for choices she has made and I'm sure she is no fan of mine either, knowing that I fill the role that she is incapable of filling must be difficult.

Yeah, more step-moms! I think my step-daughter would be ok with her dad and I having kidos, but I know that it would be hard on her. She has lots of brothers and sisters at her mom's house, I think she enjoys her space here. As well as all our attention! I'm not even sure if we can make babies, so we are just seeing what happens for now.

I have been reading all this Step mom stuff. I am a mother of a Daughter, and her father has had 6 girlfriends in the last 6 years. One for each year. Each of these girlfriends he has insisted is the "one". The last "the one" was the worst. My Daughter would come home and tell me all kinds of stories. His current "the one" Is a infamous adoption atty in anther state. When I first heard about her, I asked to meet her. My childs dad refused. So I did a internet search, and did not like what I found. I found things that state she is unethical. She is known for manipulating single poor mothers for giving up thier babies giving them a place to stay, and then when the pregnant mother has changed her mind, she throws them out on the street. Though this disgust me at first, I ingnored it for the last 5 mos. Now this lady who is 15 years older then my childs dad, refuses to allow my daughter to speak with me on the phone when I call. Im a very stong person more so then she could ever imagine so this wont get her to far, but I wanted to encourage the current step moms not to try and replace the current mother. It will back fire. If you care about our children you will encourage them to have a loving relationship with their mothers. I think there are a lot of Mothers out there that have been where I am at, and it doesnt feel good!

i wanted to say hi i am new and i also am i step mom of two. I have 4 of my own as well and it is hard to be a step mom sometimes. my two step daughters are 5 yrs and 7 yrs old. They dont like to listen to me alot and it makes it hard for me. I will not do anything to punish them because i dont feel right doing it. I will only put them in a corner or time out lol. I know that is silly but its the only thing i know to do. with out steping on there fathers toes. If any have you have ideas that will help me with getting them to listen i am all ears.

I have 2 step children a girl 4 and a boy 8.. i already had my daughter when i met my husband but my slep kids took really well to my daughter even tho she lived with their daddy and they have never asked y she calls him daddy.. but we had a son in July and his kids lust LOVE him!! they love to play with him, they came to the hospital to visit.. They know my kids as their brother and sister.. So i do not think it effects the other one at all.. just always refer to baby as their brother or sister (because they are)..

My first three kids are from a previous marriage and my ex got married before I did. In the beginning his new wife was wonderful to my kids and I could not have asked for a better mother figure for them. Now, they have two children of their own and she makes my kids feel like unwanted visitors when they are there. I hate having to send them there every other weekend. They are supposed to have them for half of the summer, but they never have and I have never said anything because I know that it would be harder on them than anything else.

I am a stepmom as well to an 11yo. I love him like he is my own and he is treated the same as his brother and sisters. It has been tough these last 8 yrs that my dh and I have been together. The biological mom has had a hard with me being in his life, as of the last year things have really been alot better for all of us. I am not trying to replace his mom, and he knows that I love him too. I make a point to go to his concerts/football games etc and he knows that he can always come to me if he needs to. I don't push myself on him and he seems to talk to me more about his feelings/things going on in school/friends etc than he does to his mom and dad. I feel priveledged to have such a complete family.

I am a step mom to an 11 yr. old girl. I also have a bio daughter who is 19 mo. They get along perfect...if my bio daughter had been born any sooner I think it would've caused problems with my SD (step daughter) I have been in my SD's life since she was almost three. I was very young at the time as my hubby is 9 yrs. older than I am. His relationship with BM (bio mom) is rocky. My relationship with BM is hot and cold. We try to get along for my SD and sometimes it's hard. Her BM has treated my hubby and my SD very poorly and then expects them to "give" to her in return. THings have been going well for the past year and I hope they continue that way.

I am glad to see there are other step-moms around. Sometimes I feel like I am the only step-mom in this town. My step-son is 7 ½ yrs old and my husband and I have a 10m old daughter. SS (step-som) lives with us 50% of the time so he has been a very constant part of our lives. I think this is different from the norm as it seems like most dads only have their kids every other weekend but I could be wrong about that. I have been in my SS’s life since he was 2 yrs old. He likes his sister but sometimes I do think he get jealous of her.